Stop Dreaming, Start Doing: The Secret to Making Sh*t Happen

Your dreams are delightful. They’re flowery and bright, like your grandmother’s drapes. I applaud you for having those dreams, for entertaining their potential. But what if your dreams aren’t doing you any favors? What if they’re nothing more than mid-day distractions? You deserve to see your dreams take shape and move from the dusty corners of your mind to the place where you live and breathe.

When Dreamers Become Doers

My son is a dreamer. He’s never short on optimism. Many years ago, he watched me tie my running shoes and decided he would learn too. He promptly removed his cartoon-themed sneaker, placed it in my lap and said, “Teach me.” Never mind that his shoes had VELCRO straps in place of shoe laces. He prodded until I took a seat on the floor beside him with my own shoe. We wound one lace around the other, tugging and fastening for what seemed like hours. Although I did the teaching, I learned something too: When it comes to making sh*t happen, there’s no room for no.

A few years later, my son asked his teacher about the curvy letters I was using to sign my name. She told him that cursive was no longer being taught and his printing was just fine. He came home that day, slapped a blank paper on the counter and again said, “Teach me.”

Fast forward to his teen years. Most days you’ll find him in front of the T.V., wearing a headset and holding an Xbox controller. He’ll be making excuses about the mess that’s overtaken his bedroom, the collection of empty Gatorade bottles, and heap of worn clothes on the carpet. But if he should decide that he really wants something, whether to master some magic trick or earn enough money to buy a new gadget, move aside.

How Bad Do You Want It?

So what is your dream and where does it live? If it’s currently on the other side of some obstacle, it’s time to ask yourself if it’s worth the leap. If the answer is yes, make room in your mind. Notice I didn’t say make a detailed plan? Because plans are good, but sometimes we can’t see the hows. So the first step is having a vision. Let the planning come next.

In another article, I talked about failure and how asking too many questions can keep us from stepping into our goals. The surest way to fail is to talk yourself out of moving forward. But if we can maintain an UNWAVERING belief that goes beyond our trials and errors, we’ll find ourselves achieving our dreams…in ways we couldn’t fathom.

So The Secret to Making Sh*t Happen is believing it can and WILL happen. Simple, huh? Tell yourself you can and you’ll be knocking down every NO until you’re standing wide eyed, toes at the line where your dreams intersect with reality.

Mantra: My deep, unshakable desire plants the seed; the universe brings the rain.  

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12 Comments
  • Megan Gonzalez
    April 7, 2016

    This is a fantastic post and a great reminder! I think my problem is settling on which dream to pursue when. Right now I’m working towards finishing my second novel and developing 5-10 ideas into synopses by the end of August. I was thinking about ramping up my freelancing business this year, but I think that will keep tied in knots for the time being.

    • Rica Lewis
      April 7, 2016

      Very ambitious, Megan! Congrats on your second novel!

  • Anna Palmer
    April 7, 2016

    Last night I dreamed that I had an incredible garden. Lush with heirloom tomatoes and peonies. No worries that they don’t bloom at the same time. Sometimes you harvest way after your plant… the shoe tying, the cursive, it is all in there, helping him grow. I got a real picture of your son. Thanks.

    • Rica Lewis
      April 7, 2016

      And thank you for reading, Anna. It’s been a pleasure getting to know you through your blog and comments here. 🙂

  • Tara Berries
    April 7, 2016

    I love learning from the children I teacher. I agree that you can get a lot done by seeing children learn things we adults have been doing for years. I keep thinking to the two boxes of junk in my closet that need to be cleaned or the pictures from my old laptop that should be transferred over. Definitely need to get on some things.

    • Rica Lewis
      April 7, 2016

      I know the feeling, Tara. Thanks for stopping in!

  • Olivia
    April 8, 2016

    This is great. My friends and u were just having a conversation about getting down to it and getting it done!

    • Rica Lewis
      April 8, 2016

      Thanks Olivia, and good luck to you and your friends!

  • STACY
    April 16, 2016

    LOVE THE “MAKE SH*T HAPPEN”, I NEED TO DO THIS:) THANKS FOR SHARING

  • Wendy Bottrell
    April 21, 2016

    Simple! Believing is the first step. For me the next step is WHY and then taking action. Just like your son said to you teach me and you sat down and both began the process of action to learn how to ties shoe laces or write cursively. Thanks of the reminder. So Simple

    • Rica Lewis
      April 21, 2016

      And thank you for reading and commenting, Wendy. Much appreciated. 🙂

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