How To Get Aligned When You Feel Out of Whack

My oldest son is back home again, and while that’s special for sentimental reasons, it’s not so convenient logistically. The younger savage and I had this rhythm going, and big brother swooped in and disturbed things. Last week I felt pulled in a hundred directions. Everyone wants something, a ride across town, an opinion they’ll eventually ignore, a few bucks for this or that. Then there are work demands, unopened emails, household chores, personal goals going stale, and this nagging sense of becoming lost in my own life. Do you ever feel that way.. lost in your own life?

Sometimes I have to pause in the mayhem and ask myself this vital question: Whose journey is this? And how can I find myself in this moment?

As I said in another post, one of the toughest lessons I’ve learned is that everyone’s shit is not mine. I don’t own the problems of the world, and believing I have to carry them is both vanity and insanity. And while my natural inclination is to help others, make everyone happy, give until there’s nothing left, sometimes the best thing I can do is detach. Let that shit go. So if you’ve been feeling lost and misaligned, as I have, maybe it’s time to take off the invisible cape you’ve been wearing. Find your breath. Find your balance. And remember…

Poor alignment leads to injury…

Let’s swallow that for a second. Let it sink in. It’s a basic yoga/ fitness fact, am I right? If we push too hard, lift too much, forget to support ourselves and listen to those internal/external cues, we’re bound to become injured. This also applies to every aspect of my journey. So why have I been walking around like Quasimodo, bending beneath the load of my heavy life, picking up problems that never really had my name on them? Again, I need to ask myself: whose journey is this? Whose problems are these? And more importantly, why am I majoring in all this minor crap?

So here’s what I’ll be meditating on this week in an effort to realign myself…

Life is simple.

P.S. How’s your alignment?

  • Peggy
    September 12, 2016

    Holy shit. Are we on the same wavelength or what? What shows up in the body shows up in the rest of my life. Last week my yoga teacher noticed how out of whack my shoulders were. So, if I’m out of alignment there, where else am I out of alignment. I nearly always over compensate with my right arm – it carries the physical load…and apparently the emotional load, too.

    And I seem to be channeling more poetry and as usual, my need for realignment showed up in a poem 🙂

    • Rica Lewis
      September 12, 2016

      Isn’t it funny (or eerie) how we are so in sync, Peggy!? I just love that I can always count on you to be on the same page! We can help each other stay aligned! 🙂

  • Sheryl
    September 12, 2016

    I needed this reminder today. life truly is simple- we make it hard!

    • Rica Lewis
      September 12, 2016

      I totally agree, Sheryl. Thanks for reading!

  • Sarah Prince
    September 12, 2016

    My alignment is a constant chore. Meditating daily, exercising daily, literally visiting the chiropractor a few times per month. 🙂 It’s never perfectly in place, so we have to work at it. 🙂

    • Rica Lewis
      September 12, 2016

      Yes, I feel your pain, Sarah. We are all constantly working to stay aligned! All the best to you!

  • Amber-lee
    September 12, 2016

    Great post! Sending love and light! xo

  • Laurie
    September 12, 2016

    Balance is so important in life — physically, mentally and emotionally. Thanks for this great reminder, Rica.

  • Bren Pace
    September 12, 2016

    Oh girl! You’re speaking my language! I’ve been out of whack for the past 2 weeks. When my girl, Zue, had her surgery, it really threw my routine off. I’m slowly trying to get back to it, however struggling a bit.

    I hate feeling this way! Ack!

    Thanks for sharing. Hope all gets better!


    • Rica Lewis
      September 12, 2016

      Hey Bren! I’m so glad your baby is on the mend. Thanks for sharing her journey. I have my own fur baby, so I’ve felt your pain along the way. Kisses and hugs for Zue!

  • Ellen
    September 12, 2016

    Don’t need a diary – you keep posting everything I am thinking! ?

    But really, was looking at a peaceful picture from summer vacation this morning and thinking — life isn’t complicated and messy — we make it so. Granted others help with the messiness, but how I react is my choice.

    Definitely need to work on my internal alignment and paying proper attention to my thoughts!


    • Rica Lewis
      September 12, 2016

      You are awesome, Ellen. You’re definitely one of the people who make life less messy. Thanks for always shining and sharing your light. So glad we’re online friends! ??

  • Jennifer
    September 13, 2016

    “Whose journey is this,” is similar to something I tell my team members, “you don’t own their reaction.” I remind them that we don’t know what the other person is going through (what journey they are on,) and we can’t control how they react to us, we can only control how we will behave in the situation.

    • Rica Lewis
      September 14, 2016

      Very smart, Jennifer. You must be an awesome leader!

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