It’s that time of year. I’m up a few pounds, down a few bucks. I’ve eaten my share and then some of Christmas cookies and boxed chocolates. I’ve spent more than I budgeted on seasonal trinkets and gifts for the fam. So let the resolutions roll out.
Which aspect of my life should I revamp? What part of my appearance do I loathe enough to hyperfocus on fixing? I could stand to tighten up this ass of mine. I could use an overpriced beauty cream or some bootcamp butt workout. Is there any truth to that coolsculpting thing? Freezing unwanted fat without surgery or down time sounds like a win!
As I type this, I hear Marie Osmond on the living room television, urging viewers to order the Nutrisystem diet plan. Yummy! That frozen lasagna is changing lives, I’m sure. But maybe we ought to heed Kirstie Alley’s advice, as she chimes in from the Jenny Craig camp.
Everyone’s peddling some magic potion, a product for change, and the secret to solving my problems. Where do I sign up for these miracles? I’m so glad January has arrived, because now I can make all my dreams come true at a discounted rate.
The word resolution actually means to “settle or find a solution to a problem.” Nothing wrong with that, am I right? Sadly, researchers say most people start backsliding just weeks later. We dump our diets, abandon our efforts, and leave our resolutions to rot on our to-do lists. We end up feeling weak-willed, defeated, and pretty shitty about our lack of dedication. The system is flawed, and here’s why…
The Secret to Changes that Stick
In my experience the secret to any life improvement, whether it’s weight loss, business growth, money management, etc., is not a product. It’s not a piece of equipment, a 12-month membership, or even a yoga mat. It is a mindset. When it comes to diets, I’m a woman who has sampled every plan — from carb cutting to points counting. I can say that all of them have the potential to work or fail. And that’s true for any instrument we access to help us achieve our goals.
Your success or failure is based on this one thing: your level of commitment. So before you set a resolution, check in with your soul and stop depending on some solution in a bottle to make the difference. Your change will happen when you have a passion so intense neither your inner sloth nor external obstacles can deter, disturb, or derail you.
So here’s my rant: I don’t have a problem with resolutions, or any tools for change. I am annoyed by the push we see in January to work on ourselves when it’s either half-hearted or fueled by a desire to fit in better with society’s ideals. I resent making adjustments that don’t honor my authenticity, or align with my passions.
My 2016 Resolutions
Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, I’ll discuss my plans for 2016. My son will be 17 this year, and I wonder how long I’ll share the same roof with the crazy, mixed-up teen. How many more mornings will I fight to reclaim my bathroom? How many more selfies will I see him take in the hall mirror? On that note, I hope to make some amazing memories with the kid.
So this year, I won’t strive to create more home organization. Instead, I will fret less about the tower of crumpled clothes on his bedroom floor, and the countless chores that await. And rather than working harder and devoting more time to achieving my business goals, I will work smarter and spend fewer evenings pecking at my keyboard. I will put my feet up more often and watch mindless television, Youtube videos and Redbox movies with my boy. In 2016, I won’t fuss when the kid leaves his shoes near the door. I’ll cherish their clunky presence as I move them off to one side.
These are the changes I commit to making in the year ahead. In addition, I will lose these few December pounds and master more advanced asanas. I’ve also purchased a great book on creating an organized mind, and if I can manage to stop losing it, I’ll apply its principles and become more productive in business.
What does your soul have to say about change? Before you rush into your resolutions, spend some time in self-reflection.
Mantra: “The quieter you become, the more you are able to hear” ~ Rumi